Guest Post: Becoming a Proud Demisexual

To kick off my Pride month section, we have a post from a very good friend of mine… ladies and gentlemen, the wonderful Miss Katie (a round of applause please)!

Hello! I’m Katie and I am a cisgender lesbian demisexual. My passion is helping others in need, with a dream of one day running my own dog shelter. After being diagnosed with Chronic Lyme Disease, I have become an advocate for those suffering with this life-changing illness; its a very misunderstood disease to say the least.

Photo Credit 📷: Callie Gibson 

Coming Out

I didn’t realise that I was gay until I was 16, and in hindsight, I blame my not knowing of whether or not I was gay on my demisexuality, as I wasn’t actually attracted to anyone until I was 16. Coming from a family who is incredibly loving and supporting of the LGBT+ community, I wasn’t scared about the prospect of telling my family that I was gay. In fact, what scared me the most, was coming to terms with my asexuality. It really messed with my head, and even today, I still have moments where I struggle to comprehend it. My head would tell me that nobody would ever love me, that I would be lonely forever, and that I was broken.

Over time, the thoughts stopped and now I know that there is nothing wrong with me. Asexuality is a spectrum, and it is as natural as breathing. Whenever I find myself having these negative thoughts about my demisexuality, I try to talk to someone who understands, like my therapist (who is demisexual too!). If I can’t, I like to focus on something else, such as playing with my dog, crocheting or having a relaxing bath. Sometimes, just picturing a happy and peaceful future can make all the difference.

Photo Credit 📷: Toni Reed

A Message to Those Like Me

To anyone who is going through something like this, my advice would be to build a support network for yourself – good people like friends, family, or fellow asexuals. Having people around me, who love me for who I am, with no judgement, has made my life better and easier. I would also recommend that you find a hobby, where you can take a moment for yourself. It’s not about distancing yourself from everyone around you, taking time for self care is so important, and I cannot encourage it enough.

And remember, the LGBT+ community is filled with the most amazing, unique and caring souls, and that’s why people fear us, because we have nothing but love for each other.

Photo Credit 📷: Leighann Renee

If you would like to follow Katie on her journey through recovery from Lyme Disease, you can follow her Instagram, justagirlwithlyme.

And if you would like to have your voice be heard during my Pride Month, feel free to send me a message on Twitter, Facebook or Instagram. Or, you can email me at

Photo Credit 📷: Ankush Minda

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